Campus Life Editor
Under normal circumstances, finding your “perfect match,” is hard enough. Throw in a global pandemic and lockdowns, and dating becomes even more difficult. In our current society, there is oftentimes a huge focus on the need for romantic relationships. In fact, many people may find themselves feeling down due to the fact that they might not have a beau. However, as we all navigate the world, and the curveballs it throws at us, one of the biggest realizations that an individual can come to is that the most important relationship you will ever have is not with a partner, but, in fact, yourself.
In honor of Valentine’s Day, the Womxn’s Leadership Association (WLA), an on-campus organization focused on deconstructing sexism and misogyny in professional and academic spaces, hosted a self-love event. The event, which occurred on Feb. 12 at 4:30 p.m., featured guest speaker Associate Professor of Social Psychology, Dr. Christina L. Scott. Dr. Scott offered much needed insight into avenues of self-love and self-care. For some, Valentine’s Day is an unwelcome reminder of the societal expectations that are set in place to be present in a relationship, and can oftentimes lead to feelings of inadequacy or failure. However, as the event discussed, whether you are in a relationship or not, the relationship that you have with yourself is incredibly crucial.
The event began with the discussion of the document, “All I Can Offer,” which included a guideline of positive affirmations, ranging from adjectives to describe yourself to your potential goals and plans. For many, it is incredibly difficult to speak to and about yourself in a positive light. Nevertheless, the event focused on the importance of speaking to and about yourself in a positive light. After a brief Zoom bomb by Dr. Scott’s daughters, who reminded the “big kids” (that’s us) of her motto, “I am smart, I am strong, and I can do anything that I put my mind to,” the meeting segwayed into discussing the various love languages.
The love languages — words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch — are not only applicable to romantic relationships. It is principle to note that these are also used in friendships as well. Dr. Scott, whose background is in the psychology of sex and gender, provided excellent insight into how we as humans interact with one another — whether that be in romantic relationships, relationships with friends, or, most importantly, relationships with ourselves.
As the meeting ended, Dr. Scott reminded all participants that their self worth does not depend on their relationship status. As we approach Valentine’s Day, it can be difficult to separate your image of self worth from your relationship status. Even so, as we all navigate the world, especially in the midst of a global pandemic, it’s become more important than ever to begin to cultivate a positive relationship with the person with whom you ultimately spend the most time with: yourself.
The WLA hosts meetings every Friday at 4:30 p.m. Links to important WLA forms and updates can be found by clicking here.
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Jackie Au is a fourth-year Political Science major with a minor in Anthropology. This is her fourth year working for the QC and her third year as a Section Editor for Campus Life. She is also a member of the College’s Women’s Water Polo team. Her hobbies include road cycling, making pottery, and attempting to sell her silly little pots.